RANSVESTIA

For example, some member of FPE will write me that he is leaving for some other city in a couple of days and wants to know whom he can meet there. Or he calls me long distance and says that he is in Cincin- nati or St. Louis or somewhere and wants to know if I can give him a phone number to call because he'd like to meet somebody. I have to ask him how he would like it if he was sitting quietly at home in the evening and the phone suddenly rings and a strange voice says, "Hey, this is Susie. Virginia told me you were an FP and gave me your phone number. How about getting together?" I ask him if he wouldn't really flip under those circumstances and he gets the point.

Another thing that a couple of people have asked me to comment about is the habit of some people of assembling the names and ad- dresses of all of their FP friends in some "little black book.” This is all very convenient for the book owner but not necessarily for the cor- respondents. Various circumstances could come up such as loss, death or divorce which would compromise the security of those in the book. So I suggest that you consider how you handle names and addresses of your correspondents in terms of how you would like others to be handl- ing yours.

DEATH

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All of us are getting older and some members of our sorority die each year. If a wife or parents know about the FP aspects of their hus- band or son, there is no special problem from the FP point of view if the FP dies. The wardrobe, literature, etc., can just be disposed of. But what happens when an FP whose wife doesn't know, dies in an acci- dent or of natural causes. Somewhere in a box in the attic or the gar- age or in a suitcase in the back of the car is the hoarded and secret "femmeself." It's bound to be discovered sooner or later. And what is the discoverer to think about the deceased? Obviously, he is beyond caring or being hurt himself, but if some sort of precautions aren't taken, the discoverer, be it wife or parents, or children or whomever, is going to be quite disturbed about the deceased and will surely think up some strange explanations.

On the other hand, if, when the hoard is discovered, there is also discovered a letter from the deceased addressed to the wife, parent, child, or "to whom it may concern," that "tells all" and puts the matter in a clear light, the upset to the survivors would be greatly reduced. Some of our members are quite well along in years and life being what it is may find themselves playing pink harps in the not-too-distant

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